You define how people treat you....

My girlfriend said to me a few days ago..." Well he gets extra credit in my book cause he actually TOOK you somewhere!!"

Do I know this as the truth? Well hell YES I do! I know it as true but yet don't want to admit to myself that she is right on the money with this very comment. She said this to me because she is a REAL friend to me, she loves me, cares about me. She knows that I appreciate the honesty, she knows I would say the exact same thing to her if I needed to.

So I have really been thinking about this the last few days and have decided that WE define how people treat us.

You are the one that shows people how you want to be treated. We do this all day with every person we see. From our kids, spouse, friends, family, co-workers and every single person that crosses our path every single day.

If someone doesn't want to go out on an actual date with you in the beginning they never will. Once a booty call, always a booty call. If that is all you wanted from them, than that is fine but don't expect any take backs on the deal. Chances are you won't get it.

We all need to stop making excuses for people too. If someone says they are going to do something and don't follow thru with it, that should be a sign to you. That is the universe trying to tell you something, so don't ignore it....pay attention!! If you ignore it for too long the world will give you a big smack upside your head someday!

I used to make excuses for someone all the time...oh I bet he was just busy, maybe they worked late or were tired or had their kid...the list goes on and on and on and on!

Well no more! I deserve better. I am a fantastic person and if someone cannot see that about me then I guess they don't need to be a part of my life let alone in my bed. I am not the problem, they are the one with the problem.

If I cannot stand up for myself and demand better than who else is going to?